It amazes me how people will allow weather to dictate whether or not you are going to do something. OK, I understand if there is ice on the road or 10ft. snow drifts. I am talking something like a shower or sprinkle. Yesterday we started swim lessons with the boys at an outdoor facility. We had been getting a good dose of rain for the majority of the day. When it came time to go to the pool, the rain had slowed to an occasional sprinkle. I mean your going to get wet in the pool any way, as long as there is no thunder or lightning.
So only half the class showed up for Jr’s class, and Jacob was the only one in his class. The one on one attention was nice though. I think they charged double the amount for private lessons. I guess people can do what they want, it’s there money. I just don’t get missing out on something because of some rain that wasn’t even falling. How many possible memories are lost because of this kind of behavior?
Well a stay at home dad made the front page of The Dallas Morning News. The name of the article was “Daddy’s New Job.” In a nut shell, this dad had to shut down his business, bring the kids home from day care, while the wife continued her job as a civil engineer. The article also talks about how he went into a funk, using the television for a babysitter, sitting on the couch all day, and his transition to accepting his new role. So this makes me want to ask the question, why are you a stay at home dad?
For me it was both choice and circumstance. When we found out Adriana was pregnant, we made the decision that one of us would stay at home with the baby. As time went on I knew that I wanted to be the one to stay home. As we got close to the due date, it became obvious that I would be staying home. She made more money and had way better benefits. If it had been the other way around, I probably would not be writing this post.
I have been at home now for four years. There have been plenty of times when I fall into a funk. Television is on all day. Nothing is getting done around the house. Then it takes a huge argument to get me out of it. During those funks, I also get to feeling guilty. First off I hate the fact that I have let my wife and kids down. Then I feel like Adriana should be the one at home (like I stole something from her). I feel like I should be the one working hard to put food on the table. The best way to get out of a funk, start moving, take the kids for a walk, to the park. Just get moving.
Men and women are wired differently. I have no question that Adriana could come in here and do a way better job then me. I am not a mom. I am not trying to be a mom. I am a dad, a stay at home dad.
Back to the news article, the father plans on going back to work. It also mentioned that census reports 140k sahds in America. Other professionals report the number should be closer to 2mil. That is a huge gap. I think it is closer to 2mil. The numbers of sahds will more then likely go down after the job market opens back up.
And whoever does not provide for relatives and especially family members has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. I Timothy 5:8 (NAB)
This video clip may have been taken out of context, I have not seen the full sermon. So I am not going to rip John Hagee for this clip, but give my fair explanation. Now I realize that there are different versions of the Bible, but because I am Catholic I am using the NAB version. Now everyone has different interpretations of what they read, including the Bible. This even includes ministers and priest. They are humans too. Here is how I interpret the verse above. If you sit around, sleep late, eat, sleep some more, allow your kids to go without diaper changes, do not seek medical attention for your kids when they are sick, just flat out negligent and oblivious to what is going on around you, then yes…you are worse then an unbeliever. Now I believe that providing for your family is not just limited to money. Stay at home parents do quite a bit of providing. There is taking care of the kids, taking care of the house, laundry, cooking meals, grocery shopping, and handling home economics. Stay at home dads do even more. Like the things dads just do, like mowing the lawn, fixing broken this and that, taking out the trash. Now in our house I am not a very good cook. I do cook dinner for the boys, but she will cook for us when she gets home or walk me through something while in transit. We go grocery shopping as a family, she handles all the coupon stuff, she is really good at it. It is all about team work, we each provide for our family in certain ways for certain things. So…Am I going to hell?
As we were taking care of PT duties this morning, Robert Jr. points at the rug and says “Do you see that really cool car?” I am like where? “There daddy, right there.” So I start to point at different areas of the rug, “that’s the front of the car, that’s the back of the car, there is the back seat.” What an imagination! All I could find was something that resembled a tire. What do you see?
What do you see?
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@joyntmadness Congrats! That is awesome! Now you got to get back into old routines. Washing bottles was my favorite...NOT!
